If you're familiar with Byron Katie and her Work, you know that she's one tough, yet supremely loving, woman. Her Work is based on four questions...just four. How easy is that? Ah, ha, ha...you have NO idea! Katie's mission is to teach each one of us how to end our own suffering. No small task!
As you might know by now, I'm not a big fan of the holiday season - mostly due to my issues with over-consumption...food, gifts, psychic space, time, whatever.
In yesterday's post, I made bold the following section:
Some of you out there are like "Yeah, right, Carla, you're whacked. Get a real obsession. Institutions like the FDA and Big Pharma are there to protect us, to keep things like sawdust out of our food* and make drugs that will save us."
"Treasure your relationships, not your possessions. "— Anthony J. D'Angelo
Today I received two noteworthy emails to share with you.
"Imagination was given to us to compensate for what we are not; a sense of humor was given to us to console us for what we are."-Mark McGinnis
Yesterday's post was a huge hit - really struck a nerve with my readers. I received so many lovely responses - thank you! So I want to share with you another little acronym that gets me out of personal squeezes every now and then.
I take myself to a SPA: Self Preserving Action/Activity. Moments can swallow us. LAF about them, then go to your SPA....a bath, a time-out, turn on some music, take a nap, say "no," or make a u-turn and call in sick. If you find yourself at the edge of an emotional or spiritual cliff, do not tempt fate. Do not wait for someone to rescue you. Rescue yourself and check in with your SPA.
Sometimes when the life load gets so heavy and threatens to squash you, it is essential to remove yourself from the scene and preserve yourself. Only by going to your SPA can things get back into perspective and balance. Big crunches need big SPAs (vacation, time off, therapy). Little crunches need little SPAs (a new hair cut, a romance novel, a matinee). But all SPAs matter. Never underestimate their power!!
Take yourself on a walk. Sit back in your chair and close your eyes. Treat yourself to something beautiful. Actually eat lunch instead of running errands on your lunch break. (Are you going to lunch? Or break?) Do something that preserves yourself, your center, your integrity and your sanity.
Small, healthy indulgences can really make or break a day. Take care of yourself. As advised on InnerSelf.ca: "Care more for yourself. Reward yourself. For one week, try to do everything that you wish to do just for you. For one week, try it. I guarantee that by the end of the week, you will not only be doing things for you, but you'll be doing more for other people than ever before. Once you can love yourself, so much love begins to emanate."
SPAs make us better people. Off to the tub!
Live light, xo-C.
Have you ever had one of those experiences/days/weeks/years when all you can do is laugh? And not because anything is funny. Generally just the opposite is the case when true laughing is essential. No other action offers relief from one of these moments like a good, solid, sincere and releasing laugh.
But I prefer rather to LAF while I'm laughing. Love. Accept. Forgive. When exhaling and letting go of a situation, sometimes there's nothing else to do but LAF. Love yourself. Love the others involved. Accept the situation. Accept the reality...as distorted as it may seem. Forgive yourself for not knowing what else to do. Forgive the others involved. Forgive the poor timing.
Opening your heart to the unknown can be the bravest thing we do. Not knowing the next step or the next action to take can be unsettling, but trust me...LAFing makes it all feel better. Love. Accept. Forgive.
And then wait. Still if no answers arrive, continue to LAF. Solutions will eventually arise effortlessly. As long as your heart, mind and soul are open to unknown possibilities, you will become pleasantly surprised by how things work out for and around you.
Just LAF until things start to make sense again. I promise they will.
Live Light, xo-C.